In the last few weeks, I have joined a variety of local groups for moms on Facebook featuring information on everything from baby wearing, to general health, to buying and selling used items for kids. These “closed” groups are fantastic– with a few strokes of the keyboard, I can get moms to chime in on just about anything while also scoping out used baby items for sale in my neighborhood, (you know, the ones I swore I would not let clutter up my house but now provide an awesome midnight obstacle course).
There is also something missing. Sure I could be brave and go to the meet-ups that correspond with each group, and maybe I will, but it is so easy to just chime in remotely and continue to go about my day. And, I have to admit, I really did not need any more reasons to go on Facebook. It is already tempting enough, as I sit nursing, to reach for my smartphone and let time slip away as I keep up on whose kid just did what or who just got married or had a baby or took some delicious trip to a place I will not be visiting with an infant anytime soon.
That’s what I hate to admit. Since Eloise has been home, my Internet addiction has skyrocketed. It is just too easy with the Internet at my fingertips to overuse social media and get caught up in googling every question that crosses my mind, (What is the best size woven wrap for a new mom? Is yellow skin on the scalp craddle cap? Which woven wrap gets the best reviews for a first-time wearer?). I easily check Facebook and/or Instagram ten times a day, or MORE. I cringe to type that.
Then I start to question how this smartphone usage affects my daughter. Does using my phone in her vicinity hurt her development? Does the fact that she already reaches out to swipe my screen mean I am in trouble if I expect her technology use to remain at a minimum? Am I missing important mom moments because I am too busy trying to capture the picture for Instagram? Okay, beginning now, I will limit myself to only using my phone when she’s asleep. Oh, wait, but I need to check…
Welcome to my neurotic brain.
I assume people used to have to actually leave the house to meet other parents. I guess I should put that on my short-term-must-achieve list: leave house, meet someone new to talk to about motherhood. The Internet is just too perfect of a black hole for introverts. I get sucked in. I feel connected. I mean, come on, I even have a blog for goodness’ sake.
While there are definitely enough positives in these online communities for me not to drop out, I also need to do something about my addiction. My first attempts at a solution? Paperback books are going next to my nursing station and I am taking an Internet break on my trip to my mom’s this weekend. No, really, I am… She lives in a land where cellphones roam, (amazing those places still exist, right?!).
But don’t you worry, I am not leaving yet, so I still have time to obsessively read your comments:
Are you as addicted as I am? Do you have any tricks to keep yourself from relying on technology too much? When was the last time you got out and interacted with *new* people when you didn’t “have” to?
6 thoughts on “The Thin Line Between Addiction & Community”
Welcome to why I’m barely writing these days.
Boo. Any tricks to getting focused when you do write?
It’s a very social online world. You have laid claim to it in seeking knowledge an information to help you in the world of Mommy hood. Maybe try a recorder during nursing to explore your works of art in writing.You amaze me in all that you do. I could not be more proud of you Olivia.
The recorder is a great idea! Thanks, as always, for the sweet words of support 😀
I’m so glad you posted this! It is such a thin line and I fear I’m on the unhealthy side lol. Working at home on the computer has me checking fb constantly. I do it mindlessly without really wanting to! Certain things (like cute Eloise + mama pics!) make it worth it, and I also follow a lot of news/media sites that keep me informed, but then there are things that just make me feel bleh. Maybe it’s the time wasting element or the need for in-person interaction like you mentioned.
I also get totally sucked down the rabbit hole on google searching for all the answers to life’s questions ha. Like you said, an introvert haven. How to find the balance?!?
I like your book solution a lot and I’m jealous of your tech escape this weekend 😉 enjoy! ❤
So glad I’m not alone 😉 And, I completely agree, there are certain things that make it worth it– like keeping up with family and friends.
Sadly my tech escape was not entirely successful. The internet on my cell phone now works up there, booooo! If you figure out any good balance tricks, keep me posted!